The Clinical Director of Sedona Sky Academy, Mike Gurr spoke on "Parent Choices for Struggling Teens." a weekly radio show that is hosted on LA Talk Radio highlighting solutions for adolescents in crisis. He was interviewed by Lon Woodbury, a Kindle author and the publisher of Woodbury Reports. Mr Woodbury is an Independent Educational Consultant. He has been assisting families in crisis since 1984.
A Brief Bio on Mike Gurr
Mike Gurr serves at Sedona Sky Acadamy as the Clinical Director. This is a therapeutic boarding school for girls in Rim Rock. He has earned two masters degrees. One is an M.Sc. in Exercise and Sport Science from the University of Utah. The other is a masters degree in Professional Counseling. He worked as a coach for high schools and colleges before getting a degree in counseling.
Combating Shame Improves Self Esteem
Mike believes that the issue of combating shame is important for adolescents to address.
Shame, said Mike, is a result of two primary fears. The first is that I am not good enough. The second is questioning self-worth. Behind both fears is the belief if that others really knew us, they would not like us. This is what keeps the cycle of shame going.
Low self-esteem and a large number of psychological problems are linked to shame. Shame is the result of false belief systems that keep people small and prevent them from being genuine with others. People who feel ashamed of themselves crave a sense of belonging, but do not feel that they are good enough to connect with others. What's more, shame is often disguised as introversion and shyness or extroversion and aggression.
Our achievement based society actively promotes shame, and, in fact, it is considered an essential part of parenting, teaching, and acculturation. However, it results in a person playing the victim, blaming others, feeling apathetic, and assuming an attitude of entitlement.
The best way to combat shame, said Mike, was to instill a sense of shame-resilience. This was the process of deflecting shaming triggers, becoming alert and aware about shame-inducing messages. This included spotting people and identifying environments that brought out a sense of shame. Shame could also be healed by learning how to be vulnerable, and by learning to how up, be seen, and be authentic. Someone who stopped caring what other people thought could experience joy, love, and creativity.
Sharing true stories about girls at Sedona Sky Academy who had overcome shame provided listeners with insights about how the process of empowerment worked. Basically, an empowered person was genuine, open, and quit opting to numb out.
A Brief Bio on Mike Gurr
Mike Gurr serves at Sedona Sky Acadamy as the Clinical Director. This is a therapeutic boarding school for girls in Rim Rock. He has earned two masters degrees. One is an M.Sc. in Exercise and Sport Science from the University of Utah. The other is a masters degree in Professional Counseling. He worked as a coach for high schools and colleges before getting a degree in counseling.
Combating Shame Improves Self Esteem
Mike believes that the issue of combating shame is important for adolescents to address.
Shame, said Mike, is a result of two primary fears. The first is that I am not good enough. The second is questioning self-worth. Behind both fears is the belief if that others really knew us, they would not like us. This is what keeps the cycle of shame going.
Low self-esteem and a large number of psychological problems are linked to shame. Shame is the result of false belief systems that keep people small and prevent them from being genuine with others. People who feel ashamed of themselves crave a sense of belonging, but do not feel that they are good enough to connect with others. What's more, shame is often disguised as introversion and shyness or extroversion and aggression.
Our achievement based society actively promotes shame, and, in fact, it is considered an essential part of parenting, teaching, and acculturation. However, it results in a person playing the victim, blaming others, feeling apathetic, and assuming an attitude of entitlement.
The best way to combat shame, said Mike, was to instill a sense of shame-resilience. This was the process of deflecting shaming triggers, becoming alert and aware about shame-inducing messages. This included spotting people and identifying environments that brought out a sense of shame. Shame could also be healed by learning how to be vulnerable, and by learning to how up, be seen, and be authentic. Someone who stopped caring what other people thought could experience joy, love, and creativity.
Sharing true stories about girls at Sedona Sky Academy who had overcome shame provided listeners with insights about how the process of empowerment worked. Basically, an empowered person was genuine, open, and quit opting to numb out.
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